Self-awareness is a crucial element to success. Motivational speakers and self development authors often advise their audience to set aside a day to envision their ideal life and write down their life’s purpose, goals and dreams. Before doing so, take the time to complete the list below. For each heading, write down the first 5 things that come to your mind. Keep a record of your lists and review them another day. Your answers will reveal the things and people you value most in life, and will serve as your guide when you write your life’s mission statement and life-long goals.
1. People I Like
2. Traits People Like About Me
3. Friends I Want To Keep For Life
4. People I Need To Say Thank You To
5. School Teachers I Remember And Why
6. Favourite Books
7. Values I Learned From Home
8. Songs That Express My Life
9. Positive Adjectives I Can Think Of In 3 Minutes
10. Ways I Can Save Money
11. Acts of Kindness I Will Do Each Day
12. Material Things I Can Give Up Today
13. New Things I Will Try
14. People I Will Forgive
15. Biggest Fears And Why
16. Charities I Will Donate To If Money Is Not A Problem
17. Meaningful Movies I Watched/Will Watch
18. Things I Excel In/Do Best
19. Things I Do For Recreation
20. Businesses I Can Do Well In
21. People Who Can Help Me Improve Myself
22. New Things I Will Commit To Learn
23. Things I Will Laugh About
24. Mistakes I Will Not Do Again
25. Things I Can Do To Relieve Myself Of Stress
26. People I Will Pray For
27. My Biggest Dreams
28. Weaknesses I Will Work On
29. Things I Will Not Settle For
30. Places I Want To Visit
31. Self-Defeating Habits I Will Quit
32. Habits I Will Develop To Improve Myself
33. Ways I Can Earn Money
34. Unhappy Memories I Will Let Go
35. Life Commandments I Will Set For Myself
36. Food I Will Eat For Good Health
37. People Skills I Will Develop
38. Top Priorities In My Life
39. Good Things I Can Do for My Spouse
40. Values I Will Teach My Children
41. People I Will Say I Love You To
42. Things I Enjoy Doing
43. Achievements I Am Most Proud Of
44. Non Material Gifts I Can Give And The People I Will Give Them Too
45. Crazy Things I Will Do Before I Die
46. Things I Will Enjoy Today That Will Not Cost Me Anything
47. Things I like Most About My Body
48. People I Can Help
49. Reasons I Love My Parents
50. Things I Want People To Say About Me When I Die
Monday, April 25, 2011
Friday, April 22, 2011
6 Steps to Healing Emotional Wounds
In today’s society where phrases like “survival of the fittest” and “dog eat dog” are generally acceptable and practised, it is inevitable for one to get emotionally wounded. So many people walk around carrying chips on their shoulders as a result of horrible, unfair and unjust things that happened to them. We hear of stories where kids are sexually, physically and verbally abused by their own parents, businessmen losing their shirts and self-esteem, people walking out on their marriage, accidents that cause untimely deaths and other unspeakable things nobody deserves to experience. A lot of people are hurt to the core of their being; they have emotionally indelible scars causing sour personalities, bad attitude, low self-esteem, anger and depression. Emotionally wounded people often rely on the saying that time heals all wounds. While this is true, it is equally important to take steps for your own emotional recovery. Here are some suggestions:
Acknowledge and understand the cause of the wound – To get over an emotional agony, it is important to acknowledge its existence. You cannot ignore the pain and hope that it will go away. Moreover, it is vital not just to know who or what caused the pain but why it is causing you so much sorrow. Someone I know stated “______ left me and I am hurt because I was looking forward to a long and happy union with him”. Betrayal in a relationship is truly heartbreaking; it robs you of joy, erodes your confidence and puts a lot of questions into your mind. But knowing why you are terribly hurt will provide you hope and a new goal to work on. In my friend’s case, “looking forward to a long and happy union” is still possible. It may be unthinkable initially, however, it can be a source of motivation after the first stage of grieving is over. Understanding the nature of your loss and pain will take you to the next steps.
Disinfect the wound – A physical wound needs to be cleaned; you need to remove splinters, dirt and other foreign objects that will cause infection. Similarly, an emotional injury will need to be disinfected from things that will aggravate the pain and slow down its healing. If your suffering is caused by a wrong choice of friends, you obviously need to get out of their company. A physically abused wife may need to move out at least temporarily until the issue is dealt with. Other situations may require a person to dissociate from certain individuals or withdraw from activities that will worsen the anguish. Whatever it is, you will need to identify who, what or which individuals or situations will worsen your distress and keep out of them right away.
Apply the necessary medication – Like a physical injury, the correct treatment must be given to an emotional wound. Engaging in self-defeating activities like drugs, alcohol, unsound relationships and the likes will not only stifle your progress. It will also contaminate your personality and attitude; create more disappointments, anger, depression and self pity. If you really want to be well and made whole again, administer the proper treatment. Get counsel; pray, read books, find meaningful activities, look for worthwhile recreation, find a relevant support group and be purposeful in your desire to heal your battered emotions.
Let healing take place – When you treat a physical wound, you clean it up, apply the bandage and leave it alone to heal. You don’t tear open an old wound. Likewise, when you are emotionally wounded, you need to allow healing to take place after you apply the treatment. Don’t go back to the wound over and over again. Refuse to relive the event; doing so will bring back the negative emotions. Don’t go back there again. Quit bringing it up with your friends, stop seeing it in your imagination. I do not mean to minimize what you may have gone through. The pain may have been staggering, but you need to move on with your life. It is normal to feel sorrow and anguish when something unthinkable happens to you. However, it’s not right to grieve about it all your life. Do not deny yourself of the good things you are yet to discover. Life is sometimes unfair, there may be questions you cannot find answers to; still, you need to take what life has dealt you with and make the most out of it. Do not poison your own life, walk out of the pain. You cannot write a new chapter until you put an end to the old one. You cannot use your past emotional wounds as an excuse not to accomplish more, fulfill your dreams and experience joy and happiness again. Be healed, create new beginnings, and experience the goodness of life.
Forgive the person who has wounded you – I know this is easier said than done. You might be thinking “what that person did to me is unforgivable”. Maybe so, but what I am suggesting is for you to forgive the person, not the wrong that he has done. When you forgive someone, you are not removing or cancelling-out the responsibility of that person to do right whatever wrong he has done to you. You forgive in order for you to experience peace and love again. You cannot go through life carrying the burden of bitterness. It will drain your spirit and cause heaviness in your heart. On the other hand, forgiving will make you a bigger person; it will allow you to soar to new heights, explore the beauty of your existence, receive bigger blessings, and add meaning to your life. Forgiving has nothing to do with the other person, it is all about you.
Allow God to make things equal for you – When you have just gone through a painful experience, it is natural to want to get even. But bear in mind that planning how to do your revenge alone takes energy. Thinking about revenge is reliving the negative emotions. It will destroy your purpose of wanting to be healed; it is self-defeating. You rob yourself of the power to do greater things. Allow God to do justice for you. Trust that in His hands, you will receive compassion and love that will nurture you back to a life of peace and goodwill. Have faith that a bigger power will deal with your traumatic experience and the person who has brought it into your life. Release the pain; refuse to let your sad experience take a grip on you. Friend, let go; let God.
Acknowledge and understand the cause of the wound – To get over an emotional agony, it is important to acknowledge its existence. You cannot ignore the pain and hope that it will go away. Moreover, it is vital not just to know who or what caused the pain but why it is causing you so much sorrow. Someone I know stated “______ left me and I am hurt because I was looking forward to a long and happy union with him”. Betrayal in a relationship is truly heartbreaking; it robs you of joy, erodes your confidence and puts a lot of questions into your mind. But knowing why you are terribly hurt will provide you hope and a new goal to work on. In my friend’s case, “looking forward to a long and happy union” is still possible. It may be unthinkable initially, however, it can be a source of motivation after the first stage of grieving is over. Understanding the nature of your loss and pain will take you to the next steps.
Disinfect the wound – A physical wound needs to be cleaned; you need to remove splinters, dirt and other foreign objects that will cause infection. Similarly, an emotional injury will need to be disinfected from things that will aggravate the pain and slow down its healing. If your suffering is caused by a wrong choice of friends, you obviously need to get out of their company. A physically abused wife may need to move out at least temporarily until the issue is dealt with. Other situations may require a person to dissociate from certain individuals or withdraw from activities that will worsen the anguish. Whatever it is, you will need to identify who, what or which individuals or situations will worsen your distress and keep out of them right away.
Apply the necessary medication – Like a physical injury, the correct treatment must be given to an emotional wound. Engaging in self-defeating activities like drugs, alcohol, unsound relationships and the likes will not only stifle your progress. It will also contaminate your personality and attitude; create more disappointments, anger, depression and self pity. If you really want to be well and made whole again, administer the proper treatment. Get counsel; pray, read books, find meaningful activities, look for worthwhile recreation, find a relevant support group and be purposeful in your desire to heal your battered emotions.
Let healing take place – When you treat a physical wound, you clean it up, apply the bandage and leave it alone to heal. You don’t tear open an old wound. Likewise, when you are emotionally wounded, you need to allow healing to take place after you apply the treatment. Don’t go back to the wound over and over again. Refuse to relive the event; doing so will bring back the negative emotions. Don’t go back there again. Quit bringing it up with your friends, stop seeing it in your imagination. I do not mean to minimize what you may have gone through. The pain may have been staggering, but you need to move on with your life. It is normal to feel sorrow and anguish when something unthinkable happens to you. However, it’s not right to grieve about it all your life. Do not deny yourself of the good things you are yet to discover. Life is sometimes unfair, there may be questions you cannot find answers to; still, you need to take what life has dealt you with and make the most out of it. Do not poison your own life, walk out of the pain. You cannot write a new chapter until you put an end to the old one. You cannot use your past emotional wounds as an excuse not to accomplish more, fulfill your dreams and experience joy and happiness again. Be healed, create new beginnings, and experience the goodness of life.
Forgive the person who has wounded you – I know this is easier said than done. You might be thinking “what that person did to me is unforgivable”. Maybe so, but what I am suggesting is for you to forgive the person, not the wrong that he has done. When you forgive someone, you are not removing or cancelling-out the responsibility of that person to do right whatever wrong he has done to you. You forgive in order for you to experience peace and love again. You cannot go through life carrying the burden of bitterness. It will drain your spirit and cause heaviness in your heart. On the other hand, forgiving will make you a bigger person; it will allow you to soar to new heights, explore the beauty of your existence, receive bigger blessings, and add meaning to your life. Forgiving has nothing to do with the other person, it is all about you.
Allow God to make things equal for you – When you have just gone through a painful experience, it is natural to want to get even. But bear in mind that planning how to do your revenge alone takes energy. Thinking about revenge is reliving the negative emotions. It will destroy your purpose of wanting to be healed; it is self-defeating. You rob yourself of the power to do greater things. Allow God to do justice for you. Trust that in His hands, you will receive compassion and love that will nurture you back to a life of peace and goodwill. Have faith that a bigger power will deal with your traumatic experience and the person who has brought it into your life. Release the pain; refuse to let your sad experience take a grip on you. Friend, let go; let God.
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Bless Your Kids With The Words You Speak
Each of us has a sphere of influence over somebody. As parents, we have the biggest influence on our children’s lives. We have the ability to shape and mold the direction of their future, and most of us do take that role seriously. Unfortunately, there are times we hurt them and unknowingly plant seeds of insecurity and inferiority in their lives with the words we speak.
I have 3 sons; I consider all of them blessings. They are my treasures in this life. My eldest is 15 and he is quiet, sweet and gentle. To this day, nobody has ever laid a hand on this boy; he has never been spanked because he is just so well-behaved. He was the only baby for a long time though, (my second child is 8) and so we both had a hard time adjusting when his siblings came along. I guess we babied him too long, and so much as he loved his brothers, he was not used to helping out. He was almost 7 when I gave birth to the second child; he was 11 when the youngest was born. I made a big mistake by expecting a lot from him, and even a bigger one by being critical and speaking harsh words to him when he didn’t meet my expectations.
I clearly remember one time we went out. We didn’t have internet at home then, so part of the day’s itinerary was to go to a computer shop so we could connect on skype to my husband who works overseas. All three boys were with me that day. The youngest, who was barely 8 months old was all over the place, banging the keyboard, licking everything he could put his fat, chubby fingers on and wriggling to get himself free of the carrier so he could create more baby havoc. The second child, about 5 years old then, was pulling on my shirt trying to get my attention because he couldn’t find the game he wanted. My eldest was already lost on the game he was playing. I was so frustrated, I yelled at him to please call his Dad and tell him we can’t stay very long. Wearing his earphones and engrossed in his game, my poor son didn’t understand my instructions. I repeated it, loudly this time, asking him to get “his stupid” earphones off his ears. I would say I am a loving mom, but I do have a devastating vocabulary when I am frustrated; not mentioning my sharp, saucer-wide eyes. My poor, gentle son panics when this nasty side of me comes out. And when he panics, his mind blocks out, which infuriates me more. Yelling like an uncivilized warrior, I said “you really are good for nothing, just get the bag and let’s go before I kill you for being so dumb”. We went out of the shop, and I realized how bad I behaved when I felt my son retreat to himself and looked so pained and humiliated. I tried to make it up to him by buying them ice cream and a few more treats. Being a child, it didn’t take long for him to get back to his usual self; or so I thought.
One day, the four of us were playing at home; it was a long time after the computer shop incident. All of a sudden, out of the blue, in the middle of our wrestling game, my eldest blurted out “good for nothing dumb”. I looked at him, trying to see what made him say those words, but he was normally playing with his brothers. I realized the words just came out of his subconscious mind. It was heartbreaking to know those words I said to him were never forgotten after all. The seed was sowed, planted, and grew its root in my son’s mind. All done by me. Painful, eye-opening experience; which is why I am writing this article.
Being parents, we do have authority over our children. But that does not give us the right to speak harsh, demeaning and disheartening words. Doing so will break their spirit and lose their sense of worth. That experience has taught me to speak loving words of approval and acceptance to my sons. I realized I am constantly creating something positive or negative in their lives with the words I speak.
I now refer to my sons as blessings, even when they are acting otherwise. I lovingly correct them when they make wrong choices. I do train and discipline them like every parent should, but I choose not to use words of judgment and contempt. I do my best to provide safety, trust and comfort with the words I speak to them. I know they need to feel my love, approval and blessing even when they misbehave. My doing so paid off big time. I see it in their grades, disposition and relationship with others.
A great number of adults are suffering today as a result of the negative words spoken to them when they were kids. Parents, let us not let this happen to our children. Let us speak words that uplift and affirm our children’s worth. Let us tell them there is nothing they cannot do. Let us encourage them to do great things and fulfil their dreams. Words cannot be taken back. Let us not curse our children’s future with our speech. We have the responsibility to bless our children. Let us encourage them to be the best they can be with words that inspire and motivate.
Bless your children with the words you speak.
I have 3 sons; I consider all of them blessings. They are my treasures in this life. My eldest is 15 and he is quiet, sweet and gentle. To this day, nobody has ever laid a hand on this boy; he has never been spanked because he is just so well-behaved. He was the only baby for a long time though, (my second child is 8) and so we both had a hard time adjusting when his siblings came along. I guess we babied him too long, and so much as he loved his brothers, he was not used to helping out. He was almost 7 when I gave birth to the second child; he was 11 when the youngest was born. I made a big mistake by expecting a lot from him, and even a bigger one by being critical and speaking harsh words to him when he didn’t meet my expectations.
I clearly remember one time we went out. We didn’t have internet at home then, so part of the day’s itinerary was to go to a computer shop so we could connect on skype to my husband who works overseas. All three boys were with me that day. The youngest, who was barely 8 months old was all over the place, banging the keyboard, licking everything he could put his fat, chubby fingers on and wriggling to get himself free of the carrier so he could create more baby havoc. The second child, about 5 years old then, was pulling on my shirt trying to get my attention because he couldn’t find the game he wanted. My eldest was already lost on the game he was playing. I was so frustrated, I yelled at him to please call his Dad and tell him we can’t stay very long. Wearing his earphones and engrossed in his game, my poor son didn’t understand my instructions. I repeated it, loudly this time, asking him to get “his stupid” earphones off his ears. I would say I am a loving mom, but I do have a devastating vocabulary when I am frustrated; not mentioning my sharp, saucer-wide eyes. My poor, gentle son panics when this nasty side of me comes out. And when he panics, his mind blocks out, which infuriates me more. Yelling like an uncivilized warrior, I said “you really are good for nothing, just get the bag and let’s go before I kill you for being so dumb”. We went out of the shop, and I realized how bad I behaved when I felt my son retreat to himself and looked so pained and humiliated. I tried to make it up to him by buying them ice cream and a few more treats. Being a child, it didn’t take long for him to get back to his usual self; or so I thought.
One day, the four of us were playing at home; it was a long time after the computer shop incident. All of a sudden, out of the blue, in the middle of our wrestling game, my eldest blurted out “good for nothing dumb”. I looked at him, trying to see what made him say those words, but he was normally playing with his brothers. I realized the words just came out of his subconscious mind. It was heartbreaking to know those words I said to him were never forgotten after all. The seed was sowed, planted, and grew its root in my son’s mind. All done by me. Painful, eye-opening experience; which is why I am writing this article.
Being parents, we do have authority over our children. But that does not give us the right to speak harsh, demeaning and disheartening words. Doing so will break their spirit and lose their sense of worth. That experience has taught me to speak loving words of approval and acceptance to my sons. I realized I am constantly creating something positive or negative in their lives with the words I speak.
I now refer to my sons as blessings, even when they are acting otherwise. I lovingly correct them when they make wrong choices. I do train and discipline them like every parent should, but I choose not to use words of judgment and contempt. I do my best to provide safety, trust and comfort with the words I speak to them. I know they need to feel my love, approval and blessing even when they misbehave. My doing so paid off big time. I see it in their grades, disposition and relationship with others.
A great number of adults are suffering today as a result of the negative words spoken to them when they were kids. Parents, let us not let this happen to our children. Let us speak words that uplift and affirm our children’s worth. Let us tell them there is nothing they cannot do. Let us encourage them to do great things and fulfil their dreams. Words cannot be taken back. Let us not curse our children’s future with our speech. We have the responsibility to bless our children. Let us encourage them to be the best they can be with words that inspire and motivate.
Bless your children with the words you speak.
Monday, April 18, 2011
CHAMPIONS ARE NEVER QUITTERS
I was going through my files this afternoon when I saw a very old yellow notebook I used when I attended a workshop many years back. What caught my attention was something I scribbled in red ink on the front cover – “quitters are never champions, champions are never quitters”. It was probably the opening line of that workshop’s facilitator. It was a simple statement that was worth noting. In our everyday life, we are faced with obstacles and adversities. No matter how much we prepare, we are bound to face difficulties. What makes you a champion when faced with problems and all you want to do is quit and start over? How can one be a champion and not be a quitter?
Life is so full of surprises, good and bad. We can’t just take what is good no matter how much we want to, because the bad side is part of the package. So what do we do with the “bad”? Here are some suggestions that will help us deal with a difficult situation:
Expect and welcome adversity – in everything we do, in every goal that we set, it is good to expect obstacles head on. It puts us in a conquering mood and an attitude of preparedness. You don’t have to take on a disposition of negativity and expect the worst at all times. That will be pessimism. You don’t get married and expect your spouse to have an affair; but it will be a good idea to read on how to keep loving relationships or observe couples who have been married a long time and find out how they kept the marriage strong and stable. Expecting adversity is keeping an open mind and having the spirit to survive the challenge if and when it comes.
Look for the opportunity behind the obstacle- Many times, problems are blessings in disguise. The trick is having the wisdom to look for the benefit you will gain from a seemingly depressing situation. Whatever it is that you are facing, no matter how bad it sounds, there is an opportunity behind it. Remember when God closes a window, He opens a door. Sometimes you just need to look for it, because many times, the door is painted over. An employee who has been laid off can explore the possibilities of freelance work and enjoy more time with the family. A person having health issues can educate himself about his illness so he can heal his body and educate others. A college student who suddenly loses financial support can be a working student, learn the value of hard work and in the process build a stronger character.
Have the courage to act on the problem – Most of the time, we intuitively know how to get out of a difficult situation. We know the solution to our problems. It is acting on what needs to be done that defeats us. Some people will even justify their lack of action by saying it is easier said than done. I have a dear friend who is a single parent. She struggles everyday to make both ends meet. She knows she has to find work. She made an impressive resume and her mom has volunteered to baby sit, but to this day, she has not filed any job application yet. She got ready, aimed, but never fired. A problem is never permanent, it always goes away; but you have to give the problem a push, a very big one, so it can start rolling away from you.
Focus on your objective – In the midst of problems and challenges, losing sight of our goals is inevitable if we are not careful. That is why it is extremely important to always keep in mind what we aim to achieve. Being aware of where we intend to get to will give us the fortitude, passion and enthusiasm to overcome our situation. A breadwinner having to endure long hours and demanding customers will not quit; he will find ways to turn the situation around because his objective is ultimately to provide for his family. As a reward, finding a resolution to his work issues may even be an opportunity for advancement. Begin with the end in mind is an excellent idea, don’t you think so?
Keep the Faith – Faith in your Creator, yourself and the universe as a whole. Believe that there is a Big Someone looking out there for you. Believe that you have the skills, inner resources, talents and whatever else it takes for you to pull it off and get over the obstacles in your life. I repeat- keep the faith, believe, never ever quit. Keep in mind CHAMPIONS ARE NEVER QUITTERS, QUITTERS ARE NEVER CHAMPIONS.
Life is so full of surprises, good and bad. We can’t just take what is good no matter how much we want to, because the bad side is part of the package. So what do we do with the “bad”? Here are some suggestions that will help us deal with a difficult situation:
Expect and welcome adversity – in everything we do, in every goal that we set, it is good to expect obstacles head on. It puts us in a conquering mood and an attitude of preparedness. You don’t have to take on a disposition of negativity and expect the worst at all times. That will be pessimism. You don’t get married and expect your spouse to have an affair; but it will be a good idea to read on how to keep loving relationships or observe couples who have been married a long time and find out how they kept the marriage strong and stable. Expecting adversity is keeping an open mind and having the spirit to survive the challenge if and when it comes.
Look for the opportunity behind the obstacle- Many times, problems are blessings in disguise. The trick is having the wisdom to look for the benefit you will gain from a seemingly depressing situation. Whatever it is that you are facing, no matter how bad it sounds, there is an opportunity behind it. Remember when God closes a window, He opens a door. Sometimes you just need to look for it, because many times, the door is painted over. An employee who has been laid off can explore the possibilities of freelance work and enjoy more time with the family. A person having health issues can educate himself about his illness so he can heal his body and educate others. A college student who suddenly loses financial support can be a working student, learn the value of hard work and in the process build a stronger character.
Have the courage to act on the problem – Most of the time, we intuitively know how to get out of a difficult situation. We know the solution to our problems. It is acting on what needs to be done that defeats us. Some people will even justify their lack of action by saying it is easier said than done. I have a dear friend who is a single parent. She struggles everyday to make both ends meet. She knows she has to find work. She made an impressive resume and her mom has volunteered to baby sit, but to this day, she has not filed any job application yet. She got ready, aimed, but never fired. A problem is never permanent, it always goes away; but you have to give the problem a push, a very big one, so it can start rolling away from you.
Focus on your objective – In the midst of problems and challenges, losing sight of our goals is inevitable if we are not careful. That is why it is extremely important to always keep in mind what we aim to achieve. Being aware of where we intend to get to will give us the fortitude, passion and enthusiasm to overcome our situation. A breadwinner having to endure long hours and demanding customers will not quit; he will find ways to turn the situation around because his objective is ultimately to provide for his family. As a reward, finding a resolution to his work issues may even be an opportunity for advancement. Begin with the end in mind is an excellent idea, don’t you think so?
Keep the Faith – Faith in your Creator, yourself and the universe as a whole. Believe that there is a Big Someone looking out there for you. Believe that you have the skills, inner resources, talents and whatever else it takes for you to pull it off and get over the obstacles in your life. I repeat- keep the faith, believe, never ever quit. Keep in mind CHAMPIONS ARE NEVER QUITTERS, QUITTERS ARE NEVER CHAMPIONS.
Saturday, April 16, 2011
Celebrate Yourself
When was the last time you looked in the mirror and winked a hi-gorgeous-greeting to your not so perfect reflection? Can’t Remember? Have you been berating yourself lately?
You are not alone in experiencing moments of self doubt and uncertainty, and in times like these, it is important that you have a deep connection to your own worthiness. You may be an imperfect person, but there is only one you in this universe. Despite you not being perfect, there is a lot you have contributed to this world that has made someone else’s existence happier. Stop scolding yourself and flooding your mind with negative thoughts. No matter how bad it is or how bad it gets, just celebrate yourself!
When people stare at your outrageous outfit, wave at them to show your equally outrageous nail polish, give them your flashiest smile; sway your hips a little more and do a catwalk. Celebrate yourself.
When your friends tease you for not sleeping with your girlfriend of 6 years because you believe in the sanctity of marriage; don’t feel bad. Hold your head up high, keep your values and seek out friends who share the same beliefs. Celebrate yourself.
When all your siblings are on the honour roll and all you got is the Most Punctual award, don’t be miserable. Being punctual is a main ingredient of success. Celebrate yourself.
Of course these are very shallow examples in the greater scheme of things. My point is, find what is good about you and enjoy it. Do not dwell in your “imperfections”. Focus on your victories. Love your colour, be proud of your hair, show the world your talent, be excited about life, be enthusiastic about your job, put a melody to your life, walk tall, commune with nature, soar like an eagle. Celebrate yourself!
Celebrating yourself is finding the beauty of your uniqueness, asserting your preferences, and living your values. It is not being boastful. It is totally different from self centeredness. Celebrating yourself is all about appreciating your strengths and acknowledging your flaws. When you celebrate yourself, you find meaning and purpose in your life. It makes you find alternatives to desperation and frustration.
Celebrating yourself is an act of gratefulness to your Creator.
Go ahead, celebrate yourself!
You are not alone in experiencing moments of self doubt and uncertainty, and in times like these, it is important that you have a deep connection to your own worthiness. You may be an imperfect person, but there is only one you in this universe. Despite you not being perfect, there is a lot you have contributed to this world that has made someone else’s existence happier. Stop scolding yourself and flooding your mind with negative thoughts. No matter how bad it is or how bad it gets, just celebrate yourself!
When people stare at your outrageous outfit, wave at them to show your equally outrageous nail polish, give them your flashiest smile; sway your hips a little more and do a catwalk. Celebrate yourself.
When your friends tease you for not sleeping with your girlfriend of 6 years because you believe in the sanctity of marriage; don’t feel bad. Hold your head up high, keep your values and seek out friends who share the same beliefs. Celebrate yourself.
When all your siblings are on the honour roll and all you got is the Most Punctual award, don’t be miserable. Being punctual is a main ingredient of success. Celebrate yourself.
Of course these are very shallow examples in the greater scheme of things. My point is, find what is good about you and enjoy it. Do not dwell in your “imperfections”. Focus on your victories. Love your colour, be proud of your hair, show the world your talent, be excited about life, be enthusiastic about your job, put a melody to your life, walk tall, commune with nature, soar like an eagle. Celebrate yourself!
Celebrating yourself is finding the beauty of your uniqueness, asserting your preferences, and living your values. It is not being boastful. It is totally different from self centeredness. Celebrating yourself is all about appreciating your strengths and acknowledging your flaws. When you celebrate yourself, you find meaning and purpose in your life. It makes you find alternatives to desperation and frustration.
Celebrating yourself is an act of gratefulness to your Creator.
Go ahead, celebrate yourself!
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